“New year, new me.” It’s the cliche we hear every year as we strive to be better than we were before. It’s the excuse we use to start over and try again. But of course, anyone who has realized the truth about new years and resolutions knows that just because January is here again and we have a brand new list of things we want to accomplish doesn’t mean anything will change. In fact, it’s pretty useless. If we actually wanted to change things about ourselves, we could start on any day. What’s so special about January 1st?
That’s the realist and pessimistic side of me speaking. But as someone who would like to be a little more optimistic, I’d like to use this new year to change up some things in my life. It may not be January 1st anymore, but like I said, the date isn’t all that important.
2015 was one of my roughest years to date but I’m grateful that I survived it. I learned a lot about myself and I finally found the determination I feel I was always lacking. I know that not having this determination is the reason why I always failed at resolutions and goals, but now, I feel a little differently about things. I feel like I could actually get closer to my goals this time around. There are many valuable lessons I learned in the past year, and I’m choosing to put them to use now. Even though resolutions aren’t my thing, I’ve decided to make a list of the top 5 things I want to accomplish in 2016.
1. Do more with my time.
I feel like I spent the second half of 2015 unproductively even though every moment of my life was scheduled out. For the first time ever, I actually felt like I had too much on my plate and it left me totally broken, mentally and physically. I was always either at work, school, or other commitments and I wasn’t eating or sleeping well. My days consisted of 1 meal a day (2 if I was lucky enough) and my sleeping hours were usually from 4-6AM if I wanted to finish all my homework. I also had to give up some things, even though I didn’t want to, in order to stay sane.
However, even with all that, I don’t feel like I accomplished much.
In the first half of 2015, I went out all the time and experienced a lot of great things. The second part of the year felt like a never-ending mountain of work and stress. Both halves of the year were polar opposites to each other, but it helped me realize that I need something in the middle. A balance between able to work hard and playing hard. So this year, I’d like to make the most out of my time. I want to have valuable experiences and do things that make me happy. I want to learn more and become smarter. It sounds like a really big goal, but in short, I just want to do things, anything. As long as I’m happy and I’m not being lazy, that’s what it’ll take to accomplish this resolution.
The game plan: Read, volunteer, travel to new places, spend time with people that I value, etc.
2. Be aggressive.
This probably isn’t a common resolution for some people, but it’s something I should work on. I’ve always struggled with being shy my whole life and I never liked to speak up for two reasons: I wanted to please everyone so I never took sides and I’ve always had this fear of saying something wrong. I really hate making mistakes or being wrong even though it’s a completely normal thing to do. This year though, I’d like to try to speak up more and not be afraid of what people think. On top of that, I want to be more assertive and go after things I want, whatever it may be.
The game plan: just start talking more.
3. Spend more time alone.
This is something I was able to accomplish this past summer. After my short work sessions at my summer job, I would go work out alone or take the bus by myself and either browse through a bookstore, look at makeup, or treat myself to something on my own. It was a good way to take my mind off of things because my summer also turned out to be pretty stressful. This year, I want to do more of that.
There’s probably a substantial list of things I’m scared of, but surprisingly, being alone isn’t one of them. I love spending time with people but I love being on my own too. There’s something about being out by yourself that’s really calming and freeing to me. I guess it’s because when you’re alone, there’s no need to keep up a conversation and it’s just something you’re doing for yourself. I hope I get some free time to myself this year, haha.
The game plan: go out on dates by myself 🙂
4. Save money.
Saving money is something that I’m good and bad at doing. I can be a pretty frugal person when I want to be, but what I really want to do is spend everything I have on really nice things, so it’s an ongoing struggle, lol. This year, I really do want to save money so that I’ll be able to experience more and treat myself to nice things every once in a while. I’ve recently gotten into the idea of quality over quantity and so I hope to be able to save up my money for the quality things and experiences I want, one by one.
The game plan: put some money in my savings every month, eat out less, spend money only on things I really need, and only splurge on things I really, really want, etc.
5. Declutter my life.
This is another one of those bigger, broader resolutions, but I feel like it’s something that needs to be done. This year, I want to declutter my life and clean out everything – and everyone – that doesn’t need to be there. In the past couple years, I’ve learned that there is such a thing as toxic people, but I just end up labeling them as “people I should maybe let go of later,” when in reality, they should’ve been long gone. The truth is, breaking up with a friend (or a “complicated” friend) is way harder than a significant other. Most friendships end by either drifting apart or a big fight. But what happens if you just don’t like that person anymore? And what if they’re in the same group of friends as you? Well, I don’t have the answers to these questions, but I hope to figure out my own answer this year.
When it comes to actually cleaning my life out, I feel like less is more. We all have so many things, but sometimes we don’t get around to using it all. This year, I want to clean out everything I don’t need and live with what I think is a necessity.
The game plan: ? (use 2016 to figure it out)
THE little RESOLUTIONS
1. Learn a new language.
I’ve always wanted to learn another language. I don’t know if I’ll really be able to teach myself a new language, but I’d like to learn either Spanish, Vietnamese, or Korean!
2. Be more aware of the world.
Culturally and through keeping up with current events, I want to be more aware of what’s going on around me, whether it’s in my city or another country.
3. Stop procrastinating and leaving things unfinished.
I’m one of the best procrastinators out there, but I’m starting to get exhausted from all the panic attacks I give myself every time I try to finish something at the last second. Instead, I should really just do things on time and stop stressing myself out. In addition to that, I should also really start and finish all the projects I’ve been meaning to do.
4. Read more books and watch good movies.
I really hope I can get at least a few good books in this year, although I’m currently immersed in the whole k-drama world at the moment (I know, I’m totally in dangerous territory right now lol). But when else is the appropriate time to binge watch Korean dramas except for school breaks, haha. I guess I just really like overly dramatic things, but I also want to watch some good movies this year as well. The first one on my list right now is The Danish Girl because I’m really curious about it!
So those are my big and small resolutions for this year. It’s a lot, but I think it’s doable. I know people say that you’re more likely to fail if you have too many resolutions, but honestly, I think it’s up to each person how much they want to do with their year. And this is what I’m choosing to do. As for my blog, my goals are quite simple. I hope to blog Mondays-Fridays again, and I want my blog to grow. Any type of growth will be welcomed by me, as long as it’s a step forward. I also plan on renovating my blog in the near future, so be on the lookout for that!
So that’s it from me today, I hope you enjoyed this lengthy post, and welcome back to theluxchronicles. I hope we see each other a lot more this year. 🙂 Let me know what your resolutions are in the comments below and I’ll see you lovelies again tomorrow!