Hello lovelies! Sorry I had to take a week off; if you follow me on Twitter, then you would know that I didn’t have Internet for about a week and I was in the process of moving so I wasn’t able to post, but I’m back now!
Today I wanted to do a Motivational Monday post about ourselves. A lot of the time, we’re taught to put others before ourselves and to give as much as we can instead of receiving. But sometimes, we just need to make ourselves a priority and be a little selfish.
I’ve had a pretty quiet summer to myself. It usually turns out that way. I always want to go on adventures, but I also want time to myself. And that’s okay. I’ve talked about it in a previous post, but I went through a hard time recently and it hindered my desire to go out and have those adventures that I really wanted.
Now that we’re nearing the end of summer vacation (school starts in two weeks for me 😢), I’m pretty disappointed in myself that I didn’t go out and have that really fun summer, but at the same time, it’s okay to have that break from everyone.
I have a tendency to be easily influenced by others and I used to have a habit of wanting to copy others. But whenever I’m by myself again, I get to think about what I like and what I want. And it’s getting easier these days. I used to want to fit in because I felt like an outsider when I was growing up, but now I want to be on the outside. I want to be different and I want to stand out; why would you want to be like everyone else when you are you?
Sometimes we need to take that time to be selfish. They say that no one gets anywhere completely alone, but while that’s true, the person that puts in the work to get to where you are is yourself. You can’t rely on people to take you where you want to go. If you want to get in shape, then you need to put in the time to work out. If you want straight A’s, then you need to dedicate yourself to studying. If you want to be promoted at work, then you need to show that you’re an exceptional employee. If you want your dream to come true, then you’re the one that needs to wake up and make it a reality.
Like they say, the people that matter will be the ones who stay even when they know the real you and will support you in your endeavors. The ones that matter will never try to tear you down or discourage you; they’ll always be happy for you. And what’s more, they’ll be okay if you’re busy working on yourself. Because they’ll be doing the same thing.
It’s when we become the best versions of ourselves that we shine the brightest. And people should respect you for being unique and being yourself. You should never feel ashamed of who you are. You should never feel like you need to fit into a mold. We are all different; no two people are completely the same. So there’s no point in comparing yourself to anyone else. It’s in our human nature to judge and compare because most of the time we’re all desperately trying to make sure that we’re normal, but in the end, what is normal if we’re all different?
So focus on yourself. Remove the negative weight in your life. Cut off the people who are holding you down, cut off the people who don’t have the same ambition as you, the people who don’t believe in you, the people who don’t accept you as you are, and the people who don’t have the patience for you while you work on yourself.
And now we also need to remember that we’re only human. We’re not perfect and we fall from time. It’s also in our human nature to need the company of others. Even though some of us would probably like to believe that we can survive alone, that’s just not the way we work. We all need love and someone to care about us. That’s why we seek out relationships; that’s why we have families. That’s how we live together as a society.
It’s okay to take time for yourself and be alone. But while you work on yourself, remember that if it ever does get too much, there will always be at least one person you can turn to, whether you know it or not. And when you have to hustle and grind on your own, remember that you’re not alone.
Maintain the relationships of the people who do stay by your side. Just because we’re focusing on ourselves doesn’t mean we have to be in complete solitude. Work on yourself, for yourself, by yourself, but once you’re comfortable with where you are, don’t forget to open up again.
Thanks for reading, and I’ll see you lovelies tomorrow.