Hello lovelies! Now that most of us have made our resolutions for the new year, let’s talk about how to actually keep them!
Now I’m not going to sit here and act like I’m so put together and like I accomplish my resolutions every year. I’m working on it just like everyone else and I’ve also researched a lot on why we fail to keep our new year’s resolutions and ways to, well, not fail on our goals.
According to the research I’ve done, we tend to fail to keep our resolutions because we make too many goals, we’re not realistic or specific enough, we don’t celebrate how far we’ve come, and we expect too much from our resolutions. Just because you become healthier, save money, or declutter your home doesn’t mean that you’ll instantly become happier and your entire life will change.
I personally started on my resolutions in December this time, which I think helped me get a better grasp of my goals for this year. Since December has already passed, I’m going to talk about what I think are the best ways to keep and achieve your resolutions in 2017.
1. DO IT FOR YOU
As nice as it is to get a “revenge body” because of a breakup or to get back at a person because they called you “chubby,” that can only take you so far. You can’t choose to get in shape because of what others say. You have to be willing to do it for yourself.
The same goes with all of your resolutions. You’re changing your life, so you need to make sure that what you want comes from your own desires and dreams. You can’t live for others; at the end of the day, you’re in control of your life.
2. BE SPECIFIC
It’s best to be specific so that you can clearly see your goal. Saying things like I want to be healthy, I want to be happier, or I want to succeed in my dream career are good goals, but they don’t clearly show what you’re planning to achieve and they’re not specific enough to draw a long-term plan from it.
Pick resolutions that are specific and then create a step-by-step plan on how you’ll keep them. This will make your goals seem more attainable in comparison to creating huge resolutions to change everything about yourself, but with no clear way to achieve them. If we’re continuing with the fitness example, saying you want to lose 10 pounds and then creating an exercise and diet plan is more likely to succeed than saying you want to get in shape.
In my resolutions for 2017 post, my goals seem a little vague, but I made it more detailed in my personal notes offline. However, I will be doing monthly check-ins on this blog, so you’ll be able to get a better understanding of my personal goals in the future, if you’re interested in that sort of thing!
3. KEEP YOURSELF IN CHECK
I think a lot of us make resolutions for the sake of it. You might get asked at work, “So what are your resolutions this year?” and you feel obligated to make something up because everyone else is doing it. Or we make them, fail at them within the first couple weeks, and give up on them.
Something I think a lot of us don’t do is to check in on our resolutions throughout the year. We tend to make them up in our minds, and forget them after a while because we’ve “failed.”
Keep yourself in check in this year by writing them down in a place where you’ll always be able to see them, whether it’s your journal, your laptop, your phone, or on the fridge. That way, you’ll be constantly reminded on what you’re working towards and it will keep you more accountable if you don’t plan on telling people about your resolutions.
Another thing you could do is talk about them to trustworthy friends and family. When I say “trustworthy,” I mean the people close to you that won’t judge you for what your goals are. There are people out there that want to bring you down when you’re doing well, or they might not be optimistic about your resolutions. Confide in people that will encourage you to keep your resolutions and that will be happy for you when you achieve your goals.
Like I said earlier, I’m going to be checking in every month on how I’m doing with my resolutions on my blog. This will be my way of reminding myself of my resolutions and also keeping myself in check so I stay on track.
4. DON’T BEAT YOURSELF UP WHEN YOU MAKE A MISTAKE
We’re all human, so we’re bound to slip up once or twice (or probably more, let’s be real here). But resolutions seem to be seen as something to be perfect at, otherwise they’re not worth keeping, which is definitely unrealistic.
I think something we’re scared of is starting. We’re scared of trying in fear of failing. And we’re scared of being new to something or not having it together from the beginning. But we should embrace that fear. We should be okay with being afraid to make mistakes and not letting our failures stop us from getting to where we want to be. Behind every success is probably a mountain of failures, so we shouldn’t beat ourselves up if we mess up. And everyone starts somewhere; no one is born to be perfect at everything.
I know it sounds like I’m dumping a load of cheese and corn on you with some of these tips because it all sounds so cheesy and corny, but I think a lot of people can relate to feeling scared of failing. In today’s society, we’re expected to always get good grades, to figure out your career path before you turn 18, to find internships and jobs before you graduate college, and so on, all without visibly failing at any step, otherwise you’ll be “behind.” There’s always been a lot of pressure, but it seems to grow as the years go on.
But we need to change the definition of failure. It doesn’t mean you’re losing, and it doesn’t signal the end of something. It just means you need to try again. So when it comes to your resolutions, don’t beat yourself up for eating that doughnut or for skipping the gym; just try again tomorrow (okay, end of cheesiness, haha).
5. REMEMBER: RESOLUTIONS DON’T START ON JANUARY 1ST.
I probably sound like a broken record if you follow my blog, but I’ve voiced repeatedly that January 1st is technically just another day. We choose to make the beginning of a new year the beginning of a new chapter and a fresh start to our lives when we could do it anytime we want.
If you fail today, get back up and try again tomorrow. If you fall off the wagon for a month, try again as soon as you can. Resolutions can be made anytime, anywhere. Set your goals whenever you want, on your own terms. Any day is a good day for a fresh start. ☺
So those are my tips on how to keep your resolutions! I hope you found this helpful and let’s all go out there and work on our goals! If you think you already failed in the last 3 days, give it another try. It’s only the beginning ☺ Thanks for reading and I’ll see you lovelies tomorrow!