Hello lovelies! Usually I do Wishlist Wednesdays on these days, but today I thought I would change things up by starting another new series called Wellness Wednesday! Without further ado, here are 5 ways to avoid negativity that will help with your mental health!
1. CHANGE YOUR NEGATIVE MINDSET.
As cheesy and cliche as it sounds, it does all start with you. If you think negatively and let other people’s words get you down, then it’ll be hard to believe in yourself later on. I touched on this subject in one of my graduation posts. It’s easy to let people bring you down, but ultimately you know what you’re capable of.
You could also be the reason why you have a negative mindset. Instead of only blaming others, take the time to look at yourself as well. Are you beating yourself up every day because you don’t feel good enough? Do you tell yourself that you won’t amount to anything? Do you make yourself feel less beautiful than you really are? It may be more difficult to admit that you’re at fault, but it’s a necessary step if you want to become a more positive person.
There are lots of different strategies to help change a negative mindset:
- Practice gratitude by writing down something you’re grateful for every day
- Make a list of your favorite achievements
- Practice self-care by pampering yourself (go for a massage, do a mask, treat yourself out to a meal or go shopping!)
- Stop judging others
- Challenge your negative thoughts and ask yourself why you’re feeling this way
- Find a positive side to something that you think is negative (examples: “I hate my job, but I have great co-workers” “I went through a breakup, but it helped me realize what I want/don’t want in a person”)
The main goal is to make your inner voice more positive, which will lead to you to be more satisfied with yourself, raise your confidence levels, and will get you out of that negative mindset.
2. TAKE THE TIME TO HELP OTHERS.
I saw a quote from The Bell Jar by Sylvia Plath:
“My mother said the cure for thinking too much about yourself was helping somebody who was worse off than you.”
This spoke to me because I think it is easy to become absorbed in our problems and to feel like the world revolves around us. Volunteering and helping others can help you realize there are people with worse problems and can get you out of a rut if you’ve been feeling stagnant.
Opening yourself up to new experiences such as meeting others and giving back to your community can lift your spirits. Granted, volunteering to help the less fortunate can sometimes feel sad because you’ll be seeing disheartening situations. But in the end, you’ll feel better after helping others, even if it’s something small, and those in need will also be grateful for your help.
3. AVOID WATCHING THE NEWS.
I heard this tip in a YouTube video once and it wasn’t until I graduated college and moved back home that I noticed how much this tip actually worked.
When I was in college, I rarely watched TV, which meant I rarely saw the news. When I did watch the news, I would become frustrated and annoyed within half an hour. I realized it was because of what was being reported on the news: the daily update of what was going on with politics, another terrorist attack in Europe, another injustice done to a minority while others had the privilege to walk away from their crimes.
The news hardly takes the time to report happy events. It’s all the drama and negativity that the news focuses on so they can draw in their audience. Staying updated with current events is necessary, but keeping it to a minimum may help with avoiding negativity.
4. SURROUND YOURSELF WITH POSITIVE AND SUPPORTIVE PEOPLE.
One of the reasons why I was feeling down for a few months in my graduation post was because I was constantly being fed negativity. People’s comments brought me down and even though the majority of the things they said weren’t true, I started believing them. In short, I was surrounded by the wrong people.
You’ll know if you’re surrounded by the right people. If you feel like you’ll be able to achieve your goals around these people, then don’t let them go. The right people will motivate you and cheer you on.
Take the time to think about the people in your life. If they aren’t doing you any good, you may need to let them go. It might suck at first, but just remember that letting them go will help make room for the people that do deserve to be in your life.
5. DO THINGS THAT MAKE YOU HAPPY.
As we get older, we have to focus on the not so fun things such as bills and work, among other responsibilities. And sometimes you won’t like your job, and you most likely won’t enjoy doing chores every week. But if you let yourself be brought down by those things, you’ll soon find yourself not enjoying life and sitting in a negative mindset.
Instead, make time for your favorite hobbies. It could be as simple as taking a walk every morning to working on your photography and drawing skills. Start a scrapbook. Practice an instrument. Learn how to knit. Start a blog! I started my blog to write about the things I like and because it makes me happy. When you’re able to take some time out of your busy day to do something for yourself, it will lift your mood and get you past those negative feelings.
Some people will probably argue that “this is unrealistic” and “I don’t have time for my hobbies because of work, school, taking care of family, etc.” If it really matters to you, you can make time for it, even if it’s for 20 minutes out of the week. We all have the same amount of hours in a day; it’s up to us to choose what we do with that time.
I hope this post was helpful; let me know what you thought in the comments below and also leave any of your tips on avoiding negativity!