When can we really say we’re all grown up? Just when you think you know it all, life never fails to throw another curveball.
You spend your childhood days looking up (literally) at the kids that are a year or two older than you, wanting to be a “big kid” too. You spend your teenage years impatiently wanting to be a “cool, independent adult.” And then you probably spend your entire adult life wishing you had never grown up.
The concept of being a 20-something is a hot topic these days with the rise of social media. Suddenly, everyone has a voice in their little corner of the internet, and all these voices are saying a lot of things.
“You’re supposed to be lost in your 20s.” “You don’t have to have it all figured out in your 20s.” “Your 20s will be the greatest time of your life.” “Your 20s will be your most important years.”
But what does it all mean? Are these years really that special? Should we really be lost or should we make sure we’re on top of our game? Are we ever truly all grown up?
Your 20s are supposed to be the time when you can make lots of good and bad decisions without strong consequences because you haven’t settled down yet. It’s supposed to be a time where you figure out who you are and what you want so you can set the foundation for the rest of your life.
But sometimes, I feel like a newborn again, learning to walk and talk. I’m trying to figure out which way to walk when there’s no clear-cut path, especially in a creative career field. I’m trying to learn the vocabulary of the adult world, from figuring out how to pay taxes, to trying to come up with the perfect pitch to market myself to employers.
I thought I matured well in the academic world, but it turned out that I was unprepared for the “real world.” Sometimes I wonder why they don’t teach us these life skills in school, the things we actually need to know.
I’m unsure about a lot of things right now, but one thing I feel sure of is that I don’t think I’ll ever be grown up. Maybe one day, in my old age, when I can reflect on all the memories and the pieces of wisdom that I picked up along the way, I’ll feel like a true adult (or maybe I’ll just feel old).
But I’m almost positive that even if I somehow conquer my 20s, my 30s will surprise me and so will my 40s. And I’ll feel like an infant again, starting over and trying to navigate new challenges.
But I guess we’ll have to see; we really can’t predict the future. Growing up is something we’ll have to do for the rest of our lives, no matter what age we’re at. And the reason why I wrote this alongside this outfit is because I feel like this is the type of outfit a grown-up would wear on a casual business day, but the accessories kind of reflect how I don’t feel like an adult. So I guess I’ll just have to keep going until I do feel grown-up.
I hope you enjoyed this post! What are your thoughts on life in your 20s and the process of growing up? Let me know in the comments below! Thanks so much for reading and I’ll see you lovelies soon!